How interpersonal relationships work…explained in programming

Just a quick blurp…I’m supposed to be slaving away right now!


In there they explain that:

Trip has now relinquished a great deal of responsibility to Mechanic. Trip knows that it wants each of its bicycles to be prepared, and it trusts the Mechanic to accomplish this task. Because the responsibility for knowing how has been ceded to Mechanic, Trip will always get the correct behavior regardless of future improvements to Mechanic.
When the conversation between Trip and Mechanic switched from a how to a
what, one side effect was that the size of the public interface in Mechanic was drastically reduced.

The author talks about how beginning programmers are very structurally oriented.  IE:

  • They know what each object/person knows
  • They know how each object/person does their tasks
  • They tell each object/person when to do their tasks

I think in the real world – we call this micro managing someone.  The only conditions in which this tends to work well is when someone doesn’t know how to do something.  Otherwise it’s sub optimal.  The author even talks about how objects need to trust each other to accomplish their tasks, instead of trying to control each other or micro manage every step.

Ex’s in social media

Feels a bit like a creep to go look up the ex’s … it’s also tedious to try & avoid all mentions of someone who you were close to and working on combining your lives together.

Nonetheless, this author delves in to the thoughts and capabilities for keeping informed about the ex’s of your life … unleashing the competitive voyeur in the digital age …

Maureen O’Connor

All My Exes Live in Texts: Why the Social Media Generation Never Really Breaks Up

One neurologists opinion …

I try to avoid things like this – but there was an interesting gem of knowledge in how babies learn faces and how it affects trust.

From the analysis of Ted Cruz’s face …

Our stone–age ancestors learned to read faces and rapidly tell friend from foe. While we live in a far different environment, we still possess the same stone–age brain as our distant relatives. Like them, we judge instantly. Automatically and more quickly than conscious reflection could manage, we weigh whether we like a new face or dislike the person behind it. Our social circuits, which are largely emotional, tell us whether to trust a person or not. Given a million years of practice, our brains are good at this.

I wonder if this sort of thing … “is (s)he like me?”, “are they like us?” one of the things that we are working against, when combating inherit/latent racism …

Perhaps just an underlaying frame work which people use to under stand the world – not an excuse – rather an observation & my brain trying to connect the dots.

Tools for Tinder

In the weird world of dating … a new tool to decide if you really like someone…

To me, this seems predicated on the idea that everyone gets nervous or sweaty palms when they meet someone they like … which might be a flawed premise.  Nonetheless, very interesting that someone made a biological scanner for it.  I’d like to see it tested by a few hundred people against swipes they made previously!

 … if the person, whose image is displayed, happens to spark your interest, the Tinder will automatically read your sweaty palms and the robotic arm will swipe right for you. Should your palms remain dry, the Tinder swipes left indicating there is ‘no love emotion’. In addition to this, the machine provides basic remarks on the decisions you make in succession. …

Off Tinder, Off sex…

Interesting read…sad for her, lonely or longing?


She rescues it a bit talking about something very important, intimacy is not necessarily sex…

The man I sometimes love tells me, “Love is a leaky boat.” The woman I sometimes love tells me the blooming jasmine in Los Angeles reminds her of walking to school in Egypt as a teenager. And in her head she is somewhere far away from here, from us. We don’t have sex, but we have intimacy. It’s not that I’m choosing to abstain from sex in these situations, but that sex seems to be choosing to abstain from me.

Girl with severe burns only wants cards for Christmas

Two years ago, Safyre Terry’s father and three younger siblings were killed in a fire caused by arson. She was found next to her father, who used his body to shield her from the flames.

In addition to suffering from severe burns, Safyre lost her right hand three months after the fire, and lost her left foot in March. She’s had dozens of surgeries and her next one is Jan. 5, Safyre’s paternal aunt Liz Dodler told BuzzFeed. Dodler has sole custody of Safyre.

Christmas cards for Safyre can be sent to:
P.O. Box 6126
Schenectady, NY 12306, USA